Coaching Wisdom
The ABC Model of Behavior
Antecedent, Behavior, Consequence:
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Antecedent: What happens before the behavior
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Behavior: The observed action or response
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Consequence: What happens after the behavior
This model helps form a hypothesis about why a behavior occurs. It is a tool used to understand and change negative thought patterns and behaviors by examining the relationships between thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. The ABC Model is a core concept in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), developed by Albert Ellis. It outlines how events (A), our beliefs about those events (B), and our resulting emotional and behavioral consequences (C) are interconnected. It is a helpful guide and great beginning point when starting a conversation.
Redesigning Your Life
Many individuals want to hit the reset button or find a new direction in their lives. But starting that journey can be tough, especially in a world that ties well-being to happiness and success. Many adults end up stuck in languishing—caught in a space where they aren't completely satisfied, but aren’t really unhappy either. The great news is that this feeling of stagnation can be transformed into a vibrant state of flourishing filled with resilience and purpose. Dr. Martin Seligman’s PERMA model provides a valuable framework for this transformation, encompassing five essential elements: Positive Emotion, Engagement, Relationships, Meaning, and Accomplishment.
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Transforming from languishing to flourishing is a multifaceted process that requires self-reflection, value determination, goal rewriting, commitment, a growth mindset, and mentorship. Embrace the power of Seligman’s PERMA model to craft a life that feels both settled and inspired. By focusing on positive emotions, engagement, relationships, meaning, and accomplishment, you can transform your years into a vibrant chapter of well-being.
Building Resilience and Strength
The fourth century, BC Phoenician merchant Zeno once said after his ship hit a rock and he lost all his cargo, “I made a prosperous voyage, when I suffered shipwreck.”
This ancient wisdom may resonate with you. When we are faced with difficult challenges and struggles, it can be easy to feel like giving up or succumbing to despair. Life is undeniably full of adversity that often leaves us feeling defeated and overwhelmed. The wisdom and experience that come with age, accumulated through life's trials and tribulations, can guide us to make better decisions and navigate future obstacles more effectively.
It is crucial to remember that overcoming these obstacles can help us build resilience and strength. Each challenge conquered helps us develop coping mechanisms and problem-solving skills that can be applied to future hurdles, fostering a sense of self-confidence and self-efficacy. Facing problems and struggles can also provide opportunities for personal growth and self-discovery. Confronting fears and limitations allows us to learn more about ourselves and our true capabilities, leading to increased emotional flexibility and a deeper sense of purpose in life.
To create better health and well-being for everyone.
Karen's experiential knowledge and education coaches you through recovery, or life challenges, then recommends tools that drive solutions.
CURAE (Italian for Care)
Our work will be guided and informed by our beliefs & commitment to:
Compassion ~ we sympathize and have concern for others' perspectives, situations or sufferings.
Understanding ~ we are aware, tolerant and forgiving of situations or someone's feelings.
Respect ~ we respect people, value diversity, and are committed to equality.
Agility ~ adapting to new conditions, empowering everyone, and modifying actions accordingly.
Empathy ~ we desire to know and share the feelings of others.
